When I was a little girl, my father had an amazing dream for my life.  I would grow up, go to medical school and become a doctor.  I was actually on that path for most of my life.  As an undergraduate, I majored in Biology then soon realized I enjoyed Psychology more and switched.  But I was still determined to make my father proud.  I received my Bachelors in Clinical Psychology then returned a year later to puruse a 2nd Bachelors in Biology.  I was doing all that was necessary to live the life that my father desired for me.  I attended classes 2-3 times per week, Organic Chemistry, Physics, Biology, labs, internships, etc.  I did it all.  I was committed to the process that was necessary to become a doctor.  However, I soon realized that I wasn’t living the life I desired or pursuing my dreams and goals.  I don’t even think I had a dream or goal of my own.  The closest thing in my life that reasonabled anything I enjoyed was the part-time job I had working for a bank.

My sophmore year in college I took on a part-time job working at a bank.  After 9 months as a teller, I was promoted to Lead Teller.  I enjoyed the customer interactions, sales and marketing, training new hires, preparing for audits and even the stress.  You see the job that I had was feeding a desire that I had yet to discover.  I stayed in banking for 10 years.  And during those 10 years, I started a couple of businesses.  I was a tutor.  I marketed and promoted my services and had a great clientele.  I also started a monthly newsletter.  I sold ad spaces in the newsletter, interviewed local residents and shared words of inspiration.  I hope you see what I am getting at.  Even when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life, life was speaking and guiding me.  Now more than ever I am sure of what I want to do with my life and the life I want.

Life You Want Work


A little over a week ago, I attended Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend in San Jose, CA.  I really didn’t know what to expect from the weekend.  I knew that I had Oprah on my vision board and a goal of mine was finally happening.  I also knew that I was ready to live the life I want but not sure on how to do it.  Well the weekend was everything that I needed and more.  Oprah had us do an assignment on Saturday which required us to “See your life today”.  We had to divide our lives into what is important to us.  Once you determined what was important to you, you divided the circle up into those areas by percentage.  Then came the hard part, you had to determine how satisfied you were with each area.  We used happy faces, solemn faces and sad faces.  I soon realized that there were a lot of areas in my life that I am not happy with.  However, I also realized that this weekend was all about giving me the tools to change that.  Oprah challenged us to do something daily for the next 365 days in order to live the life you want.  So I am going to share with you all some of things that I will be doing in order to live the life I want.  By sharing, I am also hoping that you all will also hold me accountable, check in with me by leaving a comment on my post and/or take this challenge with me.  If you are going to take the challenge with me, use the hashtag #OneThingDaily when sharing what you are doing.

So here it goes.  I have been working on marketing strategies for the past few weeks.  I recently had an “aha moment” and realized I can apply the same technique from a marketing strategy to a “life strategy”. When working on a marketing strategy, you focus your efforts on a few areas that all support the overall marketing goal.  If the marketing goal is expanding your online reach, one might focus their attention on their social media platforms and what they can do on each platform to encourage growth.  For example, posting 3-4 pictures on instagram daily using specific hashtags to reach your audience, creating and scheduling 20 tweets to cycle daily on your twitter account, writing 3 post or more on your website per week, recording YouTube videos, etc.  All of these activities combined together can help achieve the ultimate goal of expanding your reach.

So here is my #OneThingDaily list of things that I will incorporate into my life some won’t be daily but have regular time and attention given.

-Family – I love spending time with my family and will continue creating memories with my children.

-Faith – Oprah and Iyanla spoke about having a daily spiritual practice.  I will continue to pray, read my Bible and meditate daily.

-Workout – I finally think it’s time to start going to the gym.  Especially since there are a few more red carpets that I want to work in the near future.

-Writing – I will be writing/blogging a lot more regularly on my site (3 times per week Lord willing) and for the local newspaper that I write for.  My goal is to strengthen the gift that God has given me.

-Radio Host – Yes, I am officially the Co-Host on Gospel Central Blog Talk Radio.  I hope to share my voice and message with you on a regular weekly basis along with my co-host.

-Knowledge – I will be reading more and I am also looking into taking a class or two.

-Multiple Streams of Income – I am going to be working even harder on generating an increased income through all of my streams.

-Travel – I am getting my passport updated.  I am going to be planning a lot more trips for business and for the experience.  I want to see the world and capture the moments in words and pictures.

-Home – To be continued…I am thinking a big move may be in my future.  But for now, I am settled and content with where I am but I can see my future home more clearer now than ever.

-Shine – I am going to allow the true essence of me to shine brighter than ever.

The key to living the life you desire is being persistent, intentional and conscious while pursuing your dreams and goals.  What are you going to do daily?

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