The show that has captivated the likes of 3 million viewers from week to week has ended its season.  Love & Hip Hop Atlanta took us behind the scenes and into the lives of 6 women.  Mimi Faust, Joseline Hernandez, K. Michelle, Rasheeda Buckner, Erica Dixon and Karlie Redd took us through the turns and pitfalls of failed relationships, lack of trust, faithfulness, commitment, domestic violence and what can happen when a career comes before a marriage.  We, the audience, sat back and watched at times we even questioned if the show was scripted.  Whether scripted or not, what we witnessed is someone else reality.

We can commercialize it, call it entertainment or whatever we choose but at the end of the day hurt people, hurt people.  However, minimizing the effects of emotional and physical abuse, constant arguing, insecurities, lies and deceit does not bring resolution.  We have a responsibility as women to educate and also display the type of relationships/friendships that we desire for our daughters.  In my opinion, to walk away from that responsibility is just as reckless as being provided a platform to display such negativity.

The fact of the matter is everyday women are dealing with these same issues daily.  They are holding onto a man that has already left them emotionally.  Their self esteem has been shattered to the point that the women in their lives soon become their biggest threat and most times without good cause.  Women are struggling with depression all while trying to maintain a home, raise their children and working a 9 to 5.  What we witnessed is that if you throw money in the equation the severity of the situation does not change.  Money can not buy happiness.

Trust me, I get it.  I was in a relationship that took me through some of the worst valleys of my life.  I had a difficult time keeping the friendships I had and building and nurturing new ones.  Even after the relationship was over it took time to get back to the person that had been loss during the process. It is a daily journey to maintain the joy and peace that the relationship attempted to rob me of.  It wasn’t until I took some time to be alone and look at myself for the person I had become that I came to the conclusion that it was time to heal.  Wounds have a way of being camouflaged but when salt is thrown on them, they soon reveal themselves.  I can only hope that each woman takes out some time to reflect and do some soul searching.  Hopefully then, the platform that has been created can ultimately be used for some good.  “I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

“Building relationships of accountability and trust with all roads leading to love.” RATL